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Long-term resentment
Another important consequence of silent treatment is long-term resentment. Even if you’re closing yourself to dialogue, this doesn’t mean there won’t still be issues left open for discussion. It will only make unaddressed matters accumulate and turn into even bigger problems than they really were in the beginning.
The partner receiving the silent treatment will feel dismissed, unimportant and unjustly isolated. As unsolved feelings and emotions accumulate, the partner subjected to the silent treatment will grow even more resentful and frustrated for not being listened and understood. The relationship’s foundation will soon start to crack and from there on it will only be a matter of time before the couple bids their farewells.
This cycle of negativity and resentment can be broken if the partners don’t withhold communication. Discussing the problems arising in a relationship and addressing them together, as a team, will prevent feelings of frustration, isolation, and growing resentment. A positive approach will help the struggling couple to build a deeper connection and strengthen their relationship.
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My husband who happens to be a medical doctor would rather give me the silent treatment rather than resolve issues. He shouts me down when i try to talk and share how i feel. He does not listen and would constantly discuss our issues with his mom who always blames me and product negativity onto our marriage then wants to be close to my kids.
How does he expect things to get resolved? Does he not realize what he is doing to us? Is he done with the relationship because that is what I am reading from his actions. He also lies and has cheated on my before but I stayed which he even insults me for when he is angry. I believe he is a narcissist which i have said to him many times in anger but I don’t think i am far from the truth. I also believe his parents are narcissists as well.
Thank you for these useful tips about dealing with people, and understanding the different traits that are in people! It’s like a road map on the why and how of everyday life! Hopefully this will help!
“To prevent communication breakdown, experts recommend having an open dialogue with your significant other, really listening to what they have to say and empathizing with them. If you manage to listen and understand one another, you are on a sure way towards a healthy and thriving relationship.”
I give the ‘silent treatment’ because my wife, no matter how much I try to stay calm, has no intention of LISTENING to what I may want to say. I have suffered this trait of hers for decades. I have no option but to remain silent.
This is a no win situation if your spouse feels this is the correct way to get you to go her way. It’s a rap, because no matter what you are wrong in her eyes and you got to pay for making her feel this way.