Don’t Forget Yourself: Managing Caregiver Stress
Supporting a loved one through a mental health crisis is demanding work. It is emotionally, mentally, and sometimes physically draining. If you don’t take care of yourself, you risk burnout, which helps no one. Your well-being is not selfish; it is essential.
Recognizing the Signs of Burnout
Caregiver stress, or burnout, is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion. Signs include:
Feeling exhausted most of the time.
Becoming irritable, cynical, or resentful.
Feeling a sense of detachment from the person you’re caring for.
Neglecting your own health, hobbies, and relationships.
Changes in your own sleep or eating habits.
If you recognize these signs in yourself, it’s a signal to step back and prioritize your own care.
Setting Healthy Boundaries
Boundaries are not walls; they are guidelines for a healthy relationship. It is okay to set limits on your availability and what you are able to do.
You can say: “I can talk on the phone for 20 minutes right now, but then I have to go.”
You can decide: “I am not available to answer calls after 10 PM unless it is an emergency.”
You can communicate: “I love you and I am here for you, but I cannot be your therapist. It’s important that we work with a professional on this.”
Remember, you cannot pour from an empty cup. Setting these limits protects your energy so you can continue to offer sustainable support.
Building Your Own Support System
You need people to talk to as well. Confide in a trusted friend, family member, or a therapist of your own. Sharing your experience with someone who can offer you empathy can lighten the load considerably. Many organizations also offer support groups for caregivers and family members, which can be a wonderful source of community and shared understanding.
