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3. People change, and that’s ok
So, you’ve met Mr. or Miss Right, and you decide to get married. This is amazing! You’ve finally found someone with whom you get along great and want to share your life. Good for you! A marriage is a long-term commitment, or at least this is how the majority of people see it, and as with any long-term matter, it has more stages.
In the beginning, everything might seem perfect. You might think that you finally have the life you’ve always wished for. You and your partner do everything together; you have a lot of plans, you go traveling, and you bought a home. But after this initial stage, after everything settles down, thighs can change. Sometimes even in dramatic ways. As we said before, you and your partner are separate individuals, and you are the only ones responsible for their own lives.
Because of this, you can sometimes grow in different ways. And this is completely normal. Many people see marriage as something permanent. But it can also be temporary. You don’t need to be together with the person you’ve married for the rest of your life. Obviously, this is something subjective and can vary from person to person.
If you and your spouse don’t get along like you used to, this is normal. Now it is your choice to evaluate if anything can be done and decide if you want to remain together. Every so often, people can accept the new differences that appear; they adapt, and the marriage grows stronger. But if you can’t do that, it is okay. You don’t have to stay together just because you think this is the only right way to do things.