6. They believe they will change the narcissist
Why do people fall in love with narcissists? Some of them have this thing called the “savior complex.” This makes them believe that they can save their loved ones and, in the end, make them better people.
But does something like this exist, or is it just an illusion? We want you to tell us that the latter answer is the correct one. No one can change a narcissist besides themselves. They are the only ones who can do something about it, and if they don’t want to, you should think about whether you want to be in a relationship with them or not.
Those who have the savior complex are generally attracted by vulnerability and have an excessive tendency to make personal sacrifices. Also, they want to help people for the wrong reasons.
If you want to learn more about narcissists, this book might help you: Energy Vampires: How To Protect Yourself From Toxic People With Narcissistic Tendencies
You should also read: 8 Subtle Relationship Issues That Will Lead to Catastrophe
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I found this article to be quite insiteful as i have read the previous ones reguarding the signs to be aware of that you have been or that you currently are in a relationship with a narcissist. The biggest hurdles for me to get over was that constant need to seek closure when the need to understand why or how ome to love unconditionally a woman that ,after reading articles on the subject, have concluded more and more a strong possibility she in fact is a narcissist. After Eight years of being in a relationship/ marriage with this person ,this was the one topic that I still had not yet come to any logical conclusions to, and in fact to this day even had just given up on on the serch to find such answears as to how I could love somebody so cruel and cold and selfish as she was/is still to this day. So in fact this article has given me, inpart some possible closure I had been seeking even years after the marrage to this person had ended.
Hi David,
You got out of the marriage to a narcissit. I did the same. However, it took me 38 years of putting myself in that position. I had all the charactoristics of wanting to save and protect them. I finally realized that I had give up my power and the hope that I would have closure. Today, I am free from the bondage, the drama and the relationship. I learned to self love, protect my heart and walk away.
I have done so much work on who I am and how to be me that I do not think of this person. I pray for him and I realize that I had to find the closure to save my soul. I have and will continue to take care of me. I rely on my spiritual guide and when I have a weak moment I realize all the blessings in my life because I can breath and be grateful that I am no longer with that person. I hope this helps. LRM