3. They hate mixed signals about intimacy
…Well, who doesn’t hate this, to be honest?
We’re not done with the intimate subject just yet. Some Reddit users said they hate it when women act as if they’re all in for being intimate, but then decide it’s enough and it’s better to stop right there. Totally a mood killer, if you ask us.
Of course, there might be times when you wanted to be more connected to your partner, but then something happened and you remembered that you had to do something. Or maybe you thought of different things that made you feel bad and the romanticism broke off.
These things are normal. They can happen to anyone at any time, but your partner doesn’t know about them unless you have an honest conversation with them. Talk to them and tell them how you feel. They’ll surely understand.
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As long as it isn’t the same thing over and over. Men needing too much time alone is not a good sign.
This is not just what men want, it’s what everyone wants. The need to be appreciated, treated with respect and love is not exclusive to men.
Just had to get in there huh Karen? I wouldn’t be surprised to learn you are single.
So right!
Alot of what women want, men want to. Just not always in the same format.
Communication is the most important key to a good relationship.
One advice I give to newlyweds is while you both are calm and in decent mood, set up some basic rules for fighting. Sound crazy? Yes it does however with rules in place, what could become a nasty and unnecessary fight. Could be nothing more than a minor arguments argument. Also if an argument starts to become nasty, take a break from each other, cool off. If it’s an issue that really needs to be talked about set up an appointment to continue the discussion later.
DUH. Mothers know their sons as well as their daughters…
Haven’t there been enough centuries of out-of-balance preoccupation with what men want?
It has been one sided for decades. The more the women give the more men take. Men think that they are only to receive. They don’t give back.
Rough and tumble is not affection and not appreciated.
PK sounds divorced and angry. Perhaps a conversation should be had between partners prior to the relationship getting to that point. Men will often change if allowed to and if they know what the issue is. Comments like “for decades” sounts like it has been decided and therefore it is and will always be. Clearly there are many men that do not fit that description but it will probably take a partner who is willing to give enough time to the relationship, and be open about his/her feelings, in order to see the difference. If anyone starts out with a preset opinion of men, or women as a whole, there is not much of a chance for a successful relationship. Looking for good qualities in someone may provide a better beginning to a relationship than the opinion that all men(or women) are the same and have been for decades.
Do you really need to say they don’t want to be hit?? Lets get out of the dark ages and in to the light people. True partnership is a give and take. Loving and forgiving. Watching each others backs and dealing with each others faults. Sharing your life is a choice. Make it a good one.
Men need to and should be treated as if they matter to because they do
My boyfriend always needs time off alone sometimes 2 weeks away. Than come back. It makes me wonder. I am so used to it. Now I look forward for him to give me some space. Good or bad. I do love him
My man only has 3 ways he prefers to spend his time when not working. Eating, sleeping or his phone glued to his face. Sitting in same room for hrs, can only get maybe a 2 minute conversation. That’s my 365 life.
Maybe you can find a better way to entertain him with something that you both participate!!
Old School has much to do with misunderstanding like ‘all men are dogs’ or ‘a man ain’t supposed to cry’ and we women many times lack the clarity as to how to (1) refute it all (especially when males have the secret code culture) (2) replace it with what will be the healings males have to go through to exit the life of the ‘fake self’ from Koko in the Rockies
It’s hard for men to not think visually about a woman. Her body. Smells. Voice. Walk. Eyes. Legs. May look at other women. That does not mean he doesn’t love you. Just the opposite. Men are more visual. But, usually if the woman is gentle, speaks softly, takes care of herself, and listens. He is crazy about you.
thanks
AGAIN—you are creating problems where there are NONE. You are a “scab picker” promoting discord. You never mention “HUMOR” which is a powerful medicine for petty conflicts.
Among MATURE couples, humor is the super glue that binds them together. Laughing together, laughing at yourself, laughing at pettiness is truly a gift from your Creator! Enjoy it—take advantage of it.
Again, this timely advice—GRATIS from your favorite sage, Feral Tomm!