9. They like compliments too
We all know that women feel instantly better when someone compliments them, especially if the person who does it is someone they have deep feelings for. But did you know that men like compliments too?
Even if it’s just a small thing, such as ”This shirt looks really good on you”, or “You are very cute” will make their day a lot better. This will give them a mood boost and it will make them more confident; so make sure you make your man feel loved. They will surely appreciate it!
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As long as it isn’t the same thing over and over. Men needing too much time alone is not a good sign.
Goes for both
This is not just what men want, it’s what everyone wants. The need to be appreciated, treated with respect and love is not exclusive to men.
Just had to get in there huh Karen? I wouldn’t be surprised to learn you are single.
And YOU, A-hole, are someone l would normally not expend any energy on whatsoever with a snarky uncalled for remark like that. But you are being an A-hold by name calling someone who does not deserve your bullying!
So wtf is YOUR problem? (Btw, this is directed as a reply to the man who called a woman out on this thread, who obviously is NOT a “Karen”, but he is too obnoxiously ignorant to know that…)
Whoah, where did that come from? She only made a true observation. You call her a “Karen” but you sound yourself like a MGTOW. Relax, brother.
I don’t know if your talking about me but you need shut your mouth. Maybe the reason you are single is because you think a woman has to your maid. I can spot a bitter unhappy man who blames females for their problems a mile away.
Well, Tom-Tom……..IF Karen IS single, I’d bet at least 50 bucks it’s because she WANTS to be single!! Relax young man….Pretty quick with the wise-assed comments, might wanna get a hold on that!
lol. You are so Dead On Sally. Love It!!!
So right!
That is correct, but they think that they are the only ones who want respect…..
You know how in regards to “Black Lives Matter” people respond with “All Lives Matter”? Well, that’s what your comment is like. It’s dismissive. Before you respond back with some sort of defense, take some time to be self-reflective and perhaps next time you will be more empathetic and less offhand.
I agree it’s a two way street. Men and women look for pretty much the same things. Communication is the key we may show love in different ways but all in all we both want to be loved. Be there for each other and respect one another. Men and women want alone time from time to time there’s nothing wrong with that we both need that time to ourselves reflect find that inner peace. These things are healthy for the mind body and soul.
I was thinking the exact same thing. Actually I usually hear these kind of things about women allot though out my 40 years and have always thought that. I think that is the point. People want these things men as well.
Amen and A-MEN!! Go, Sally!!
Yes everyone wants respect and love and everyone deserves it with exceptions of course meaning the worst among us !
Alot of what women want, men want to. Just not always in the same format.
Communication is the most important key to a good relationship.
One advice I give to newlyweds is while you both are calm and in decent mood, set up some basic rules for fighting. Sound crazy? Yes it does however with rules in place, what could become a nasty and unnecessary fight. Could be nothing more than a minor arguments argument. Also if an argument starts to become nasty, take a break from each other, cool off. If it’s an issue that really needs to be talked about set up an appointment to continue the discussion later.
Excellent advice! I would add it’s often lost on couples that they are fighting to WIN the argument, to be right! This approach makes one of them a loser and who wants to be a loser? So it’s very important to keep in the forefront that they are a couple and the goal is to win together. Both being winners! So the outcome should be how can we hear each other, meet each other’s needs, and get stronger instead of hurt, bitter, and further apart. It will require change and flexibility but knowing that no two people think exactly alike will help. It may also result in realizing they are fundamentally very different from what they thought they knew about each other but it is still a win even if they determine they cannot continue as a couple because it will correct course for a future workable relationship. Fighting to win just leads to more fighting to win and years down the road giving up the fight and sometimes the will to try again.
DUH. Mothers know their sons as well as their daughters…
Haven’t there been enough centuries of out-of-balance preoccupation with what men want?
That is correct. And remember if your son is out all night with a girl, think of it as it could be my daughter ……….my parents did that to me. My brother was allowed to be out till all hours of the night, but I had to be home by 10 PM
The reasoning was we did not have to worry about him getting pregnant…..but what about the gal he is with…..My parents never figured that one out until I said something…..And mothers. don’t think your son is an angel, because he smothers you with kisses, and hugs and you tell yourselves ” he is such a good boy ” …. he has the same urges that all men have…..
YOU said it!! I have 4 adult sons…and for more than 50+ years, I’ve been privy to what men want, need, wish for, insist upon, dream about, try to find and more than likely, finally find! I have such a GRASP on men want, I’m an A+ expert! Women want, have needs and strive for many of the same things, plus the more FEMALE needs. My only advice has always been…..MEN: pay attention, learn the clues and follow them…Treat a woman with love, TLC and respect…..and YOU have got it MADE!
Be REAL men with tenderness….OK? Hey, thanks, guys!
It has been one sided for decades. The more the women give the more men take. Men think that they are only to receive. They don’t give back.
Rough and tumble is not affection and not appreciated.
PK sounds divorced and angry. Perhaps a conversation should be had between partners prior to the relationship getting to that point. Men will often change if allowed to and if they know what the issue is. Comments like “for decades” sounts like it has been decided and therefore it is and will always be. Clearly there are many men that do not fit that description but it will probably take a partner who is willing to give enough time to the relationship, and be open about his/her feelings, in order to see the difference. If anyone starts out with a preset opinion of men, or women as a whole, there is not much of a chance for a successful relationship. Looking for good qualities in someone may provide a better beginning to a relationship than the opinion that all men(or women) are the same and have been for decades.
Yes, it has been for decades, and it is time that men realize that what they want is not always going to be that way.
There is a song out there that states, ” What a lovely Boy ”
When he was the only boy, his parents dotted on him, then his baby sister came along and he was all bent out of shape because he was not the only one that his parents had time for….
so many men are so self centered they even dislike their siblings or their kids because they feel that they need to be first…….That is immature, self centered and selfish! And I have met many men like that!
Well said and very true!
I was married over 40 years! My husband could be very kind or extremely nasty and that was based on his ex-wife!
Communication and compromise are tops on my list along with an ear or two willing to really listen to one another!
Not all relations are going to work, but many couples today don’t really learn to commit to one another!
If you really want a relationship to work, you have to be willing to put the work into it, not just decide to throw in the towel at the first time there’s trouble!
so we went to MY doctor at the VA yesterday. i have been telling my wife she is depressed and have shoved anti depressants and anti pshychotics down her throat for the last year. so for my annual visit it was my turn. i told the main caregiver that i am depressed because my wife is. my wife tells me that i just do not care about her. she says that sex hurts her. she has gone to her doctor to get things to help. now she does not even want sex. i do not pressure her for sex. she says that i do not understand that if i could just help her with the mail, like when the water bill is so high on the rental house when no one is staying there. we had to pay for a water leak detector for $400 and they found it after i could not find it after spending HOURS looking at it myself. i am a plumber in another life. longer story short, it was at the main. NOW the bill is high again. she says if i JUST remember from yesterday to finish that job from yesterday before i want to paint my golf cart, she could get other stuff done. there are at least 10 items in the mail, not to mention 100 emails a day she has to sift thru. she throws away about 95 emails by not opening them. i don’t know how she does it. there are so many squirrels hidiing in the emails. i could never do what she does. maybe i should appreciate her by remembering just ONE thing from yesterday and finish that??
Absolutely!
A little off point. But it needs to be said.
In this day and age, where Women have fought, and won the right to be Equals. It is time to stop penalizing those of us with testicles with the opinion that it’s Always a man’s responsibility to pay for everything all the time! Especially if you’re dating multiple men at once! Women also need to drop the idea that in a relationship, a woman’s money is their money, while a man’s money is, “Our Money”. This adage goes against Everything Women have fought for. You’ve spent Years fighting for Equality. It about time you own up to it!
Tired of feeling used.
Love this! Very well said.
Agree
Its all about taking care of each others needs, being selfish in a relationship isn’t right
Not a hater, are you? But some do just want the physical. I knew a woman who was all about that. She knew nothing about love and relationships tho she thought herself an expert
And I can tell your not looking very hard. I’ve been arrived to my lovely wife for 30 yrs. She has not cooked 20 meals since 1996, when I want time with her I take her on a cruise for a week. When she is feeling down I pick her up and carry her. I help her with the house chores and responsibilities. Almost nightly I caress her back and shoulders. She just finished 6 wks of chemo, I was at the hospital every day with sweets and goodies. The problem is – most people have forgotten the first rule of marriage. “I DO” are the two words that signify “surrender out of love”. Marriage is about “serving” , or becoming a bond slave to the one you love. If your not a “servant” then your not giving your total being to the one you married.
I find nowadays that men are giving more and more and more and women don’t appreciate it. The more you give, the more that becomes part of an expectation of a woman and it’s no longer something extra and then they say you don’t give him anything. Till before you know it 100% of your time is spent giving the women everything and if he comes in expectation from the woman and an unappreciated expectation at that
The gentleman that responded to your answer doesn’t know what he is talking about. You are talking about the history of mankind and how it has favored men throughout millennia not even centuries and decades. It has been women paid less for the same job men do and equality and justice are still far away. I’m not even a feminist but statistics show women who are from a culture or race considered a minority, get the worst treatment. The relationship between men and woman has been influenced by placing superiority of men. Only Christianity placed equality in both sexes at the time we were considered less. Christianity also established no difference between free people and slaves. Only a God-fearing society can treat the woman according to godly commands: respect and equality. Yes, I agree men have been only in the receiving end unfortunately!!!
Do you really need to say they don’t want to be hit?? Lets get out of the dark ages and in to the light people. True partnership is a give and take. Loving and forgiving. Watching each others backs and dealing with each others faults. Sharing your life is a choice. Make it a good one.
Men need to and should be treated as if they matter to because they do
Absolutely
Men matter too, but women matter also. But too many men are to selfish and too self centered. I have been single for 23 years and I would not change my status for any one, or anything, because I find men very self centered, and selfish, in many ways…..and they feel if they buy you something you are expected to fall at their feet….
My boyfriend always needs time off alone sometimes 2 weeks away. Than come back. It makes me wonder. I am so used to it. Now I look forward for him to give me some space. Good or bad. I do love him
If my man has to be away for two weeks at a time, he is not your man! You need to find a man who wants to be with you ……..and you with him. When I find that I prefer to go on vacation with my gal friends, I know it is time to find another man……i hate the way they act like little boys, burping and slurping their drinks, or the bad table manners, or bad manners all the way around. And the education is not what it should be ….a doctor who burpes and farts is not a guy for me…..
Wow! He goes away for TWO weeks?! I would pay a private investigator to find out where he’s at, what he’s doing — and most importantly: WITH WHOM!
Your special guy NEEDS “alone-time” …away…for TWO WEEKS at a time??! Honey….You OUGHTTA wonder…and not just SOMETIMES! Please get a grip. See the glaring light before you! (For your sake. I hope you know you’re worth so much more attention and care!
I’d be curious what’s he doing for 2 weeks. Screwing some other woman that’s where my mind would go. Why would he need two weeks away from you
My man only has 3 ways he prefers to spend his time when not working. Eating, sleeping or his phone glued to his face. Sitting in same room for hrs, can only get maybe a 2 minute conversation. That’s my 365 life.
Maybe you can find a better way to entertain him with something that you both participate!!
She would be in bed for days …..grow up men, life is not always about getting more sex….if he cannot get turned on by just being with his wife, then he is married to the wrong gal and she is married to the wrong man. Our parents lived that way, and they died that way. NO JOY IN THEIR LIVES…..
The man must be willing and open to trying new or different things when it comes to entertainment.
what is it SPECIFICALLY when you say to entertain? are you saying that they should both participate in a dog and pony show? that kind of entertainment? or what?
Move on! Is this how you want to spend the rest of your life? Seriously a man like that is worse than no man. A lot of single women (& men) have happy and fulfilling lives without a partner. Build fun, interesting things into your life and only allow a man in who’s going to make your life even better!
It is time to wave bye bye…..if you have children, they will grow up just like him and make other women miserable……teach your children that life is not hat your old man is dishing out!
If that’s what you have accepted for any length of time…….clearly, it’s what you deserve or you have no ambition to have better in your life. Hope soon you realize that just as Dr. Phil says repeatedly, “We TEACH people how to treat us.” I’d live with an uninterested, inactive, unloving man like yours for less than a month.
Sorry, habit he has become comfortable with…
”he is home it is his time he earned it”…sarcasm from me , sorry.
Start doing things that make you happy but make a point to include him. Self care is a big deal for you especially as you are being ignored…take a close look at who you’ve become…
That is no relationship. Tell him how you feel
Yeah..it’s a drag and boring…you have to just proviDe your own entertainment
Be resourceful and have. Fun. ..your way !
Old School has much to do with misunderstanding like ‘all men are dogs’ or ‘a man ain’t supposed to cry’ and we women many times lack the clarity as to how to (1) refute it all (especially when males have the secret code culture) (2) replace it with what will be the healings males have to go through to exit the life of the ‘fake self’ from Koko in the Rockies
It’s hard for men to not think visually about a woman. Her body. Smells. Voice. Walk. Eyes. Legs. May look at other women. That does not mean he doesn’t love you. Just the opposite. Men are more visual. But, usually if the woman is gentle, speaks softly, takes care of herself, and listens. He is crazy about you.
MY BOYFRIEND TRIED THAT ON ME, AND I DID IT TO HIM, ONCE! HE HAS NEVER DONE IT AGAIN, AND IF HE HAD i WOULD HAVE BEEN GONE.
I AM A VERY ATTRACTIVE LADY, AND HE DID NOT DESERVE ME, AND I TOLD HIM SO IN SO MANY WORDS.
HE CLAIMS HE DID IT TO MAKE ME JEALOUS. I DID NOT MAKE ME JEALOUS BUT IT MADE BE FEEL LESS RESPECTED, IF YO DON’T RESPECT THE PERSON YO ARE WITH, THEN STAY HOME! EYEING OTHERS IS A SIGN OF DISRESPECT BUT MANY MEN HAVE NEVER BEEN TAUGHT THAT……THEIR MOMS TOLERATED IT , BUT I DO NOT!
i used to be crazy about my bride. now she is ugly 15 years later. i’m not jealous of all the men that oggle her. she is beautiful. no on eknows what goes on behind closed doors. because she screams at me to leave her alone, so she can think and do ALL of the organization. i simply cannot organize. i can’t even keep a LIST together. she wants me to go by my LIST, and gets so mad when i can’t even FIND my stupid list. i guess that is why i feel so neglected and unimportant. she keeps all the bills in order. i think i’m losing it because i can’t remember anything that is important to her. maybe it is dementia, maybe 5g scrambling my brain up.
That is 100% true, when you’re not constantly corrected and told that you’re wrong all the time. . I don’t know why women always have to try to prove that they’re right and that the man is wrong. It’s absolutely annoying.
The man needs to take care of himself, too.
thanks
“… it’s too captivating to miss them out.”
“To miss them out”?! Huh?! What is that supposed to mean and where did you learn English?
Love as well learning to love is a choice!
Communication, understanding, patience, acceptance.
Being married has been something to overcome in life- by that I mean getting past myself, my foolish selfish pride and all that stems from it….. The Word of GOD is the only way!! Not in “getting away for days/weeks at a time” or finding satisfaction from alcohol, drugs, porn….
NOTHING in life will help you overcome the struggles of this present age other than the shed blood of Christ on the cross- where mercy and justice met up at the same time for the same reason-
We’ve been married 38years. We were 19 when we got married. We grew up together have raised 6 children and now have 21 grandchildren. We have a great sex life and
WE must communicate! The cell phone can get in the way but we just tell each other
The older my man gets the more understanding he is. I wouldn’t change a thing!
I can say if the man is gentle, takes care of self,and listens, She will be crazy about him. How do I know? Divorced a typical “manly” person who thought manly is to have a wandering eye years ago. Met a guy who was gentle, took care of self, and listened…..Our kids are now; 50, the youngest, 59 the oldest. He passed away 6 months ago. yeah, he is VERY missed.
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Some snarky comments in here as well as some considerate thoughts. I was in a physically abusive relationship that finally ended when she left me with a 5 stitch wound on my head from a pot she hit me with.
I know I didn’t deserve that or the other punches & kicks I endured when she didn’t get her way. No matter how much I told her I don’t like being hit, it didn’t matter to her.
Ladies, as much as you might not believe it, we aren’t all “dogs” or whatever derogatory terms you use for us. We are human too.
I would just stay quite and let them blow off steam. Better less said than cause more damage.
The most important thing i have heard men want is respect.
Ridiculous. Everyone wants these things and only men really get them. He wants to be taken care of sometimes too? All I do is take care of him. That’s all we do is take care of them. All men want a mommy. I’ve never met one that doesn’t.
My husband cheated on me with some random woman. He said he was hurting and she was easy to talk to. Now that he is trying to put our marriage back together and says he is not seeming her anymore, but this woman keeps texting and calling both our phones and leaving treating messages. When I ask him if he ended this with this person he gets angry and said “yes that’s why she keeps calling and texting because I am ignoring her calls and texts” could this be true? I filled for a divorce is 2022, but not for infidelity, it was because we had irreconcilable differences, and now two year later this happens. I’ve asked he to leave my home, but he refuses to leave. What should I do now?
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Just think of little details that will make their lives easier and that will show them how much they mean to you
“Till death do us part” Do you take your oath seriously? I lost my wife to cancer just 4 months short of our 50th, so I do know a little about what a man and woman want. It’s not difficult. Yes, have respect for each other, stop this thinking that somehow, some day, you (and that’s both ways) will “change” that trait, BS. Keep the other person in mind. When you get up to get a glass of whatever, ask you partner if they would like something. Simple, considerate. If they don’t look normal, whether sad or happy, ASK. show some consideration. It’s all about sharing, both the grief and joy, it’s what binds. There should be no need for “fights’ between adults. Maybe people just haven’t learned to communicate on a personal basis any more, we see the breakdown throughout our entire society. But my goodness, as adults, can’t we learn to discuss our differences in a mature manner. No one is always right, even we males, but it’s how we learn, and sometimes we have to just accept the other persons views, let things play out, and move forward. We all make bad decisions, nothing is gained by holding a grudge or rubbing it in, we learn from it, we work thru the aftermath together, and come out stronger as a couple. We don’t need books or apps or whatever to tell us what we need to do, deep down we know. Consideration and common sense, the foundations of life.
I believe a man once grown responds to his girlfriend, wife in the manner he saw his Mom responded to his father! A women can’t raise a man, but she can show him how to be respectful and affectionate to a women I believe! Don’t be so harsh some of you females, if you are disgruntled , it maybe because you witnessed your Dad , or previous relationship showed you something !🫠
Of all the comments Wes’ makes the most sense.
We’ve been together over 22 years. It’s always been a give and take equal relationship. He makes more money than me but what’s his is mine and what’s mine is his. We have some things in common and then we have our own interest. We vacation together as well as sometimes vacation apart with his guy friends or my girlfriends. We trust and tell each other everyday we love each other. We both love our sexual relationship with one another and there are times when one of us might not feel up to it… but hey we do it and call it taking one for the team! lol. My health has declined and he does things for me that I don’t even have to ask. I cook he automatically loads and unloads the dishwasher. He brings the laundry to the laundry room. Makes the bed if I’m unable to. If we are having guests over he will help me tidy up. He asked me if I need things as well as I ask him if he does. Like I said it’s a gives and take relationship and that works for us. We also make sure we have that date night. As well as I might not want to hang out with some of the guy friends but I do it when they bring their wives. And he might not want to hang out with my girlfriends but he will when they bring their husbands. We are friends and we are lovers but most of all we communicate. I don’t know how else to explain how to make a relationship a good one but ours has grown over the years. I can honestly say I love this man more and more everyday.
AGAIN—you are creating problems where there are NONE. You are a “scab picker” promoting discord. You never mention “HUMOR” which is a powerful medicine for petty conflicts.
Among MATURE couples, humor is the super glue that binds them together. Laughing together, laughing at yourself, laughing at pettiness is truly a gift from your Creator! Enjoy it—take advantage of it.
Again, this timely advice—GRATIS from your favorite sage, Feral Tomm!
Humor is so important. Don’t take everything so seriously.
The ideal concept about the lifestyle of a successful couple is one both partners appreciate each other day-in-day-out, regardless of class, wealth, and educational differences, they love to allow each other to express her/his side of any point of disagreement.
I really like how day to day interactions are described and how we as women assume our men are always there for us but we also play a part in doing these little things for them. Found this article very helpful!
I’m not sure where to start in this topic, because both sides have their needs, but they don’t work on compromise both sides what I like and what she likes and start to build the relationship from there and I think if both parties are having clear understanding I don’t think gonna be a problem, but when we don’t have any understanding of each others and then we’re problem arises, remember it’s take 2 to build it but only take 1 to break it down because we don’t understand each other, or get to know your partner