Empty promises regarding their change
No, don’t fall for that! If you’ve been in the relationship for a while now and things didn’t work as you planned, you probably had many serious discussions about what things you could change for the relationship to work.
Truth be told, a narcissist may never change, and if you asked them to do so along the time you’ve been in a relationship and things got worse rather than good, you should never believe they will ever change.
If gaslighting, blame, and persuasion never worked to pull you back into the relationship, they will make empty promises that things will change once you give them another chance.
Reveal their neediness
While they want to show a strong and independent appearance, in reality, they are very uncertain people who need constant reassurance and validation. Being in a connection with a narcissist can be exhausting since you will feel like you are in second place because you end up taking care of them more than you should.
Even after the breakup, they will try to make it harder for you to say no. Be mindful of this because too many interactions with a former partner don’t benefit you and your mental health.
Stalking you at its best
While narcissists seldom engage in dangerous stalking, it is not unusual for them to happen to be in the grocery store when you are, to show up out of the blue at a social or community gathering you frequent or to plan their daily running schedule to pass by your house. Be prepared for these unexpected meetings to occur. They are intended to keep you conscious of the narcissist’s existence and unbalanced emotionally.
Gossip about you
Because a narcissist insists that everyone you know take a side, it can be difficult to keep the breakup private. They will right away share their version of the breakup story with your friends, neighbors, churchgoers, and other acquaintances both in person and on social media.
Gossiping about you is a tactic they apply to make you the bad guy in their story and gain the sympathy of others. This is just another (failed) attempt to win you back.
Have you ever been with a narcissist?
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One Response
I believe I am involved with a narcissist. I have also been in love with them for 25+yrs. I know that they are a narcissist but I can’t get them out of my heart. We were separated for 2yrs with no contact but I never stopped loving them. I’m pretty sure I’m going to die loving them. I’m 68yrs old.