Revenge might be around the corner
This is probably one of the ugliest things narcissists do after a breakup: they seek revenge. Posting rants on social media to get attention from others by blaming you for how they feel, trying to hack into your email account, or spreading rumors about you in your group of friends.
In extreme situations, they can also try to mess up your job by trying to persuade employers or HR into believing you are really a bad person who isn’t suitable to work in the company.
Gaslighting you
The terms “gaslighting” and “narcissism” are frequently used together because this is the narcissist’s first weapon. When a relationship is coming to an end, gaslighting might take the form of dismissing your worries and your reasons for leaving it. Things like, “You’re the one who doesn’t want to work on this relationship,” can be said to you. “It’s not me. I’ve done everything I can to keep us together.”
This is a very bad guilt trip that many people use to convince the other person to come back to them.
Life is short and it’s not right for you to be unhappy and stuck in a connection that doesn’t bring you any good. If you just broke up with a narcissist and you don’t know what road you should take, then this book is for you.
Surviving a Narcissist: A Step-by-Step Guide to Healing from Emotional Abuse and Toxic Behaviors helps you understand that there is light at the end of the tunnel no matter what happens. Regain your mental health and see this as an experience that life throws at you. The book is available on Amazon in all versions, from paperback to Kindle edition.
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I believe I am involved with a narcissist. I have also been in love with them for 25+yrs. I know that they are a narcissist but I can’t get them out of my heart. We were separated for 2yrs with no contact but I never stopped loving them. I’m pretty sure I’m going to die loving them. I’m 68yrs old.
One issue that is a total brain scramble. You didn’t fall in love with THEM you fell in love with the MASK they created just for you. My ex LOVED dogs but in the end he raised a clenched FIST to my old dying dog to traumatize me. That is the real him. He is off with the new one and now is into Jeeps
You are CHOOSING to waste the last few years of your life. I was married to one for 10 years, ending at age 65 for me, a terrible time to start over, and that’s what I had to do. You may pine after that person, but believe me, that person does not love you….they are incapable of love. I finally found a REAL man, who can show emotions and does not think he is the center of the universe. You can too. It IS a choice.
I just this year realize I have been married to a narcissist for 37 yrs. I too knowing I bought him in action stays he didn’t nothing wrong. IA narcissist will believes himself and he wil not admit nothing.
I think I’m just figuring out Im in love with a narcissist after 10 years and many break ups later and separations and it’s only because that person keeps calling me a narcissist so I started reading up on exactly what a narcissist is and how they act and there it was right in my face a textbook narcissist the whole time and after the last break up I figured out I would love that person till the day I die but that doesn’t mean I have to be with them I deserve to be happy……… Silence does good
I was involved with a narcissist for 4 yrs.. my only true advice….
GET OUT AND DONT LOOK BACK!!
They are evil to the cord! You are only there to make them look good but they can care less about you or your feeling. Never cry in front of them.. if you do, they win. Instead while they are ranting and raving .. fold your arms and look smug!!! They hate that!! And you win!! You’ll see them stomp off like a temper tantrum baby that they are!
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE.. get out! Don’t look back and Definitely study “Survivors of Narcissist” site! It will shock you because you will see the same controlling stories you are going through!! You are pre ious and don’t think any less of yourself no matter what they say about you. You are stronger than them!