Revenge might be around the corner
This is probably one of the ugliest things narcissists do after a breakup: they seek revenge. Posting rants on social media to get attention from others by blaming you for how they feel, trying to hack into your email account, or spreading rumors about you in your group of friends.
In extreme situations, they can also try to mess up your job by trying to persuade employers or HR into believing you are really a bad person who isn’t suitable to work in the company.
Gaslighting you
The terms “gaslighting” and “narcissism” are frequently used together because this is the narcissist’s first weapon. When a relationship is coming to an end, gaslighting might take the form of dismissing your worries and your reasons for leaving it. Things like, “You’re the one who doesn’t want to work on this relationship,” can be said to you. “It’s not me. I’ve done everything I can to keep us together.”
This is a very bad guilt trip that many people use to convince the other person to come back to them.
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I believe I am involved with a narcissist. I have also been in love with them for 25+yrs. I know that they are a narcissist but I can’t get them out of my heart. We were separated for 2yrs with no contact but I never stopped loving them. I’m pretty sure I’m going to die loving them. I’m 68yrs old.