4. “You Made Me Do It”
The Tactic: Blame Shifting & Projection
Did they yell at you? It’s because you were “nagging.” Did they cheat? It’s because you were “distant.” In the narcissist’s worldview, they are perpetually the victim of circumstance—or of you.
The Psychology: This is a classic defense mechanism known as projection. Individuals with high narcissistic traits often have a fragile ego that cannot tolerate shame. To cope, they project that shame outward, assigning blame to you to protect their own self-image.
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