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9 Secrets Men NEVER Tell Their Wives (and Why)

May 8, 2023 · Relationships
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5. He has some fantasies that he will never share

Your husband won’t ever reveal to you his secret dreams, whether they are honest or harmless. Why? Psychological research has shown that most men have trouble communicating their desires in the most private of settings. They might have a desire that you would most likely joyfully accept, but they may not know how to express it.

According to therapists, you can encourage him to open up by merely telling him about one of your dreams. Nothing will inspire him to be braver than demonstrating your own vulnerability. How often do you talk honestly to your partner?

6. How he feels about you physically

The way somebody looks can be a very sensitive subject to talk about, even after being married for a couple of years. Some people lost a few pounds, while others gained some for no apparent reason. Mostly because men are aware of the fact that women are sensitive and delicate, they avoid being honest about this topic. He might not know how to suggest that you change your look or take a day off from household chores without upsetting you or making you feel uneasy.

Next time you feel something is off, try a different approach to the situation by simply asking him about your appearance or lifestyle choices. This will demonstrate to him how much you value his opinion. Believe it or not, men need to know that disclosing their “secrets” is highly appreciated by their wives.

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30 responses to “9 Secrets Men NEVER Tell Their Wives (and Why)”

  1. Hun says:
    July 9, 2024 at 12:31 pm

    Why do you not include the sane question to women? Why ? Because women have Been a 3rd no 4th rate in relationships behind on line games, I’ll do it later and Why are you bitching at me to do that???,, get your damn story straight. Things are not fair now and will NEVER be fair in relationships. Love??? It’s fake. It’s not real it’s bullshit! It sucks you in and then BAM! your the maid. Dude I hate your article!

    Reply
  2. LeAnne says:
    July 13, 2024 at 12:22 pm

    this article is as fake and uselsess as tits on a boar hog…written by some liberal woke idiot !!

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    • Caroline says:
      October 20, 2025 at 12:28 am

      Liberal woke idiot lol

      Reply
  3. Jane says:
    August 9, 2024 at 1:50 am

    This site should of said you have to pay in the end to get your results. They made it sound like it was free. I feel, I wasted so much of my time already answering so many personal questions. I feel violated and wish I could take all my information back. In this economy my husband and I are lucky enough to pay our WiFi to go on the computer. I’m disappointed. Live and Learn!

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  4. Camille Clark says:
    September 3, 2024 at 2:59 pm

    Wasn’t the title of the article, “9 Things Men Never Tell Their Wives…”? Where’s the ninth one?? Super irritating.

    Reply
  5. Paul says:
    September 3, 2024 at 3:30 pm

    #8 It’s not a good idea to mention that “she will stand by him no matter what”. The subject has to be in a conversation before that is mentioned or the man will wonder why she said that! His confidence could be shattered.

    Reply
  6. Shakira Abdul-Ali says:
    September 3, 2024 at 5:27 pm

    I HATE CLICKBATE

    Reply
  7. jay says:
    September 3, 2024 at 6:42 pm

    hell yes , who in the hell wants a convicted felon to lead our country . trump wants to lead the nation that he doesn’t believe in , doesn’t respect the rule of law , cheats in business , resorted to violence when he lost the 2020 election …

    Reply
  8. Michele Vernet says:
    September 4, 2024 at 2:14 pm

    That’s not 9! That’s 7 reasons.
    Need 2 more to make it right!

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  9. Jennifer Reid says:
    September 4, 2024 at 2:35 pm

    The link: 6 telltale signs/overthinking everything takes me to an article about grandkids

    Reply
  10. Rudy says:
    September 5, 2024 at 2:17 pm

    Not interested in this add.

    Reply
  11. Fred says:
    October 2, 2024 at 1:01 pm

    What happened to number 9?

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  12. Jeff says:
    October 2, 2024 at 11:44 pm

    Because women never have secrets they keep from their husbands.

    Reply
  13. Meaghan Verdugo says:
    October 3, 2024 at 12:53 am

    Umm the articles says 9, but you only posted 8.

    Reply
  14. Jett says:
    October 3, 2024 at 2:39 am

    These are all things that if your with someone you love and they love you it won’t be a difficult discussion. Bottom line.

    Reply
  15. Linda Hoselton says:
    October 3, 2024 at 6:43 pm

    We live solely on Social Security, which makes paying our bills is a struggle. He does not use the computer and I fear that the time will come when he will have to take over out finances. I worry about this, but haven’t told him about it. We also have an adult child living with us in a small home, which adds stress for me.

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  16. Charlie Morris says:
    October 3, 2024 at 7:08 pm

    Why bother? The biggest secret in posts like this can be summed up in three words. WAIT FOR IT! WAIT FOR IT!!

    I don’t feel like reading 40 or 50 teaser paragraphs to find your answer. And in those paragraphs leading up to your answer is the same lead in repeated over and over again. Forget it.

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  17. Alan Frey says:
    October 4, 2024 at 12:37 am

    Where’s the 9th idea?

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  18. David H Bradley says:
    October 4, 2024 at 3:15 am

    Men only hope their women think 8 is really nine.

    Reply
  19. Isha says:
    January 5, 2025 at 2:27 pm

    Don’t need this email

    Reply
  20. Rick Lehman says:
    January 5, 2025 at 3:43 pm

    The article clearly states 9 Secrets Men NEVER Tell Their Wives (and Why). Yet there is only 8 listed.

    Reply
  21. Karla Gibson says:
    January 5, 2025 at 5:10 pm

    Thank you for this.

    Reply
  22. Brenda says:
    January 5, 2025 at 6:10 pm

    I don’t want emails

    Reply
  23. Tinker says:
    January 5, 2025 at 7:22 pm

    Refrain from writing an article that promises to outline nine secrets and only share eight.

    Reply
  24. Michael Wright says:
    January 5, 2025 at 10:14 pm

    What is Secret #9?

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  25. Melvin Mitchell says:
    January 6, 2025 at 3:17 am

    You have to tell your spouse whatever on your mind because the cure are in those Conversations moving forward.

    Reply
  26. John Tate says:
    January 29, 2025 at 1:09 pm

    As a clergyman these are right on.

    Reply
    • Caroline says:
      October 20, 2025 at 12:30 am

      Well how many men have you met that are afraid of bugs and that take care of the house?

      Reply
  27. Willie says:
    January 29, 2025 at 8:24 pm

    He’s afraid to tell his wife ( female ) that he prefers to wear Tunics ( Dresses & Skirts & Blouses ) because the wife will discriminate against him and throw him out of the house but it’s perfectly acceptable for her to wear Anything she wants. She also thinks he must be Gay which is not the case he just as Straight as she is. Women just like the Church and AMERICA Society looks down on the Men who prefer wearing Tunics ( Dresses, Skirts and Blouses ) because the clothes are more comfortable because of the openness of the dresses and skirts cool to wear. Most men have a mind block thinking that the dresses and skirts are Just for women which there not but are for both men and women.
    Who’s the fault the Psychologist the Church ( Deuteronomy 22-5 being misinterpreted ) Jesus will be coming back REVELATIONS 1-13 wearing a Tunic.

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  28. Maria says:
    March 6, 2025 at 4:45 pm

    Please let me by all my purse I. Need this my last change if you don’t take this now ok iam done thank you
    I dit all correct thank you
    Maria Brum

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