Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
How long does it take to forgive someone?
There is no set timeline for forgiveness. It is a deeply personal process that varies for everyone and for every situation. For some, it may be a matter of weeks; for others, it could take years. It is not a linear journey—you may feel you have forgiven someone, only to have feelings of anger resurface later. This is normal. The goal is not to reach a final, perfect state of forgiveness but to continue choosing to let go each time the resentment appears. Be patient and compassionate with yourself.
Do I have to tell the person I’ve forgiven them?
No, you do not. Forgiveness is an internal act you do for your own emotional health. You are not obligated to communicate your forgiveness to the person who hurt you. In some cases, telling them might be helpful for both of you, but in other situations, especially those involving abuse or toxicity, it could be unsafe or unproductive. You are the sole decider of whether to communicate your forgiveness.
What if I forgive them and they hurt me again?
This is a common and valid fear. It highlights the critical difference between forgiveness and trust. Forgiveness is about releasing your own resentment about a past event. Trust is about believing in someone’s future behavior. You can fully forgive someone for what they did in the past while choosing not to trust them in the future. Forgiveness is compatible with strong, healthy boundaries. Forgiving someone does not mean you have to give them the opportunity to hurt you again.
