Lack of respect and empathy
Try picturing this: You told your partner about something bad that happened in your life at some point, and when you expect that they are going to be empathic and nice, no matter what you say, you see that they can’t put themselves in your shoes. This may resemble narcissistic behavior which will be discussed in the next paragraphs as well.
Ignoring your limits, thoughts, or feelings betrays a lack of consideration and respect. It’s time to move on if you discover that you are always apologizing, treading carefully, or feeling unappreciated and unheard.
Any trustworthy connection must be based on respect; otherwise, it will eventually damage your sense of value and self-esteem, which may take years to recover from.
Differences in core values
Did you ever think that having different opinions regarding minor things like politics or ethics could be a problem for the relationship? Well, in the long term, it might affect the connection. According to psychologists, it can be difficult to navigate daily life and make judgments when there are fundamental conflicts in one’s principles.
Don’t give in to a lifetime of disagreement; give in to compromise, because this is one of the red flags that no therapist can fix. It will make you happier if you choose to be with someone who shares your core beliefs and goals.
Long-term goals aren’t on the same page
Different life goals and aspirations might eventually cause disillusionment and animosity. Moving on will be difficult and stressful if you and your partner don’t have common objectives for the future.
While you two are different people and you may also like separate things, it’s still important to have the same life goals. Think about these aspects even before considering couple therapy, because unfortunately, this is one of those things that can’t be fixed.
Therapy can be very expensive, especially couple counseling, and a lot of people can’t afford it. While nothing can replace therapy 100%, you can still do various things to work on yourself and your relationship, not only separately but also together.
12-Week Couples Therapy Workbook: Essential Exercises for Enhancing Communication Skills, Deepening Intimacy, and Strengthening Your Relationship is one book recommended by therapists that can be your friend in need for all those times when you feel like your relationship might be slipping through the fingers and you don’t know what to do.
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8 Responses
This is all very beneficial. Especially when the couple were raised in different parts of the world in different cultures.
I left my country to be with her, and am having difficulties ever since I have arrived for the third time and left everything behind where I am from.
Great information, how do you find the person for you at an age of 65. or more. Some time money and health get in the way.
Yeah, those will do it. We had the intimacy so to speak, but if it was really only physical and not emotional and it was when the other half decided they wanted to be cordial, was it ever really intimate? See communication and empathy. We could spend lots of time comparing notes here
If therapists can’t fix these problems what good are they?
Sometimes you just have to walk away. Not looking back.
Being in a relationship with a narcissist was horrible. Controlled everything. Only cared about his needs intimately. Was told I could take care of myself in that aspect of the relationship.
The biggest problem is people belief factor
Are you Spiritually together?
Many can agree on the Natural things of Life
If one’s Spiritual Life is not built on the right Foundation, One will surely have a battle
The other factor is many don’t take the time to make sure as much as possible to examine themselves about the type of person they desire to have in their life
My brother would say I want a good woman and I in return would ask are you a good man?
We have to very careful with our decisions Yes in some cases one can be deceived
I’ve found you can like many people but the one that clicks with you is usually the one that is simply put Mature and not vain
Two can’t walk together unless they can have Respect and True Love not Lust
Lust will always be there, but not necessarily the one to put a ring on
Don’t be over anxious and take your time
When love is truly true from both , Nothing are no one can break you, yes as long as one lives there’s always going to be something that will challenge your commitment
But in the end only the two of you can decide where you desire to be
So I Leave With This Question
Would You Like To Live With Out The One You’re With?
This is an excellent article and definitely on point. Unfortunately, I have a feeling that not many are open to input when they are in love. It’s so hard to see through the rose colored glasses. It’s an excellent article.