They blame the other person
Of course, they did nothing wrong since they’re “perfect,” right? Unfortunately, this is a never-ending story with a narcissist and won’t be an exception even after the breakup. Thus, be prepared for them to hold you solely responsible for the breakup, even if both of you may probably have had some blame for the failure of the relationship.
This has a psychological explanation: the natural tendency to place blame might be related to an individual’s need for self-preservation and commitment to keeping their ego, which means believing that they are the greatest and that everyone else is entirely to blame for any misfortune.
It takes a lot of strength to admit you are guilty on a certain level too, a type of strength a selfish person may never have.
Ignore that the relationship actually ended
This may sound surprising, especially for those who have never been in a relationship with a narcissist, but it’s true and is one of the things narcissists do after a breakup. They can continue acting like nothing happened, ignoring the fact that you said you wanted to break up.
Since most of them have a huge issue with respecting other people’s boundaries, they might try to call you, write you on social media and via text messages, or even come to your door.
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I believe I am involved with a narcissist. I have also been in love with them for 25+yrs. I know that they are a narcissist but I can’t get them out of my heart. We were separated for 2yrs with no contact but I never stopped loving them. I’m pretty sure I’m going to die loving them. I’m 68yrs old.