They blame the other person
Of course, they did nothing wrong since they’re “perfect,” right? Unfortunately, this is a never-ending story with a narcissist and won’t be an exception even after the breakup. Thus, be prepared for them to hold you solely responsible for the breakup, even if both of you may probably have had some blame for the failure of the relationship.
This has a psychological explanation: the natural tendency to place blame might be related to an individual’s need for self-preservation and commitment to keeping their ego, which means believing that they are the greatest and that everyone else is entirely to blame for any misfortune.
It takes a lot of strength to admit you are guilty on a certain level too, a type of strength a selfish person may never have.
Ignore that the relationship actually ended
This may sound surprising, especially for those who have never been in a relationship with a narcissist, but it’s true and is one of the things narcissists do after a breakup. They can continue acting like nothing happened, ignoring the fact that you said you wanted to break up.
Since most of them have a huge issue with respecting other people’s boundaries, they might try to call you, write you on social media and via text messages, or even come to your door.
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I believe I am involved with a narcissist. I have also been in love with them for 25+yrs. I know that they are a narcissist but I can’t get them out of my heart. We were separated for 2yrs with no contact but I never stopped loving them. I’m pretty sure I’m going to die loving them. I’m 68yrs old.
One issue that is a total brain scramble. You didn’t fall in love with THEM you fell in love with the MASK they created just for you. My ex LOVED dogs but in the end he raised a clenched FIST to my old dying dog to traumatize me. That is the real him. He is off with the new one and now is into Jeeps
You are CHOOSING to waste the last few years of your life. I was married to one for 10 years, ending at age 65 for me, a terrible time to start over, and that’s what I had to do. You may pine after that person, but believe me, that person does not love you….they are incapable of love. I finally found a REAL man, who can show emotions and does not think he is the center of the universe. You can too. It IS a choice.
I just this year realize I have been married to a narcissist for 37 yrs. I too knowing I bought him in action stays he didn’t nothing wrong. IA narcissist will believes himself and he wil not admit nothing.
I think I’m just figuring out Im in love with a narcissist after 10 years and many break ups later and separations and it’s only because that person keeps calling me a narcissist so I started reading up on exactly what a narcissist is and how they act and there it was right in my face a textbook narcissist the whole time and after the last break up I figured out I would love that person till the day I die but that doesn’t mean I have to be with them I deserve to be happy……… Silence does good
I was involved with a narcissist for 4 yrs.. my only true advice….
GET OUT AND DONT LOOK BACK!!
They are evil to the cord! You are only there to make them look good but they can care less about you or your feeling. Never cry in front of them.. if you do, they win. Instead while they are ranting and raving .. fold your arms and look smug!!! They hate that!! And you win!! You’ll see them stomp off like a temper tantrum baby that they are!
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE.. get out! Don’t look back and Definitely study “Survivors of Narcissist” site! It will shock you because you will see the same controlling stories you are going through!! You are pre ious and don’t think any less of yourself no matter what they say about you. You are stronger than them!