They will do their best to convince you you’ve made a mistake
A relationship with a narcissist can be so overwhelming and complicated that many individuals experience trauma for months after the breakup. Trust issues, feelings of unworthiness, and persistent sadness are just a few of the things that will linger after the relationship ends.
If you were the one who decided to end it, most probably the narcissist will try to make you come back by saying you made a mistake and things can be good again between you two. To regain control of the relationship, they use charm, extortion, persuasion, and finally intimidation, agitation, and open provocation.
Don’t fall into their trap because this is manipulation. According to various psychological studies, a narcissistic partner would never love their partners on a true and vulnerable level, two things that are crucial for a healthy relationship.
Tell others a completely different version of the story
That’s huge and is their way to protect their image in front of the others while spoiling yours. Expect them to tell everyone a different version of your breakup, and most probably they will say they ended it. Appearances matter to them, and one thing they dislike the most is being seen by others as vulnerable or sad.
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I believe I am involved with a narcissist. I have also been in love with them for 25+yrs. I know that they are a narcissist but I can’t get them out of my heart. We were separated for 2yrs with no contact but I never stopped loving them. I’m pretty sure I’m going to die loving them. I’m 68yrs old.
One issue that is a total brain scramble. You didn’t fall in love with THEM you fell in love with the MASK they created just for you. My ex LOVED dogs but in the end he raised a clenched FIST to my old dying dog to traumatize me. That is the real him. He is off with the new one and now is into Jeeps
You are CHOOSING to waste the last few years of your life. I was married to one for 10 years, ending at age 65 for me, a terrible time to start over, and that’s what I had to do. You may pine after that person, but believe me, that person does not love you….they are incapable of love. I finally found a REAL man, who can show emotions and does not think he is the center of the universe. You can too. It IS a choice.
I just this year realize I have been married to a narcissist for 37 yrs. I too knowing I bought him in action stays he didn’t nothing wrong. IA narcissist will believes himself and he wil not admit nothing.
I think I’m just figuring out Im in love with a narcissist after 10 years and many break ups later and separations and it’s only because that person keeps calling me a narcissist so I started reading up on exactly what a narcissist is and how they act and there it was right in my face a textbook narcissist the whole time and after the last break up I figured out I would love that person till the day I die but that doesn’t mean I have to be with them I deserve to be happy……… Silence does good
I was involved with a narcissist for 4 yrs.. my only true advice….
GET OUT AND DONT LOOK BACK!!
They are evil to the cord! You are only there to make them look good but they can care less about you or your feeling. Never cry in front of them.. if you do, they win. Instead while they are ranting and raving .. fold your arms and look smug!!! They hate that!! And you win!! You’ll see them stomp off like a temper tantrum baby that they are!
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE.. get out! Don’t look back and Definitely study “Survivors of Narcissist” site! It will shock you because you will see the same controlling stories you are going through!! You are pre ious and don’t think any less of yourself no matter what they say about you. You are stronger than them!