You’re trying too hard
Popularity is the be-all and end-all when you’re in high school. But is it possible you’ve carried that over for the rest of your life? Even as aging adults, we can still feel the pressure to “fit in.”
You might think that the best of earning respect from others is to get into other people’s good books. That could mean being friendly, fun, agreeable, helpful, calm, and so on. But guess what? This backfires most of the time.
There is such a thing as trying too hard. When we do so, we tend to come across as desperate. Also, it loses sincerity because you’re less likely to be yourself, and it puts others off.
Think of it this way: When you come on too strong, it’s like being a salesperson too ready to make a sale. You can almost smell the desperation, right?
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Great advice!! Wish a few people I know would read it.
Finding the rest of the article is complex and I couldn’t find it, wish I could have.
Pretty interesting and valuable.
This was quite interesting. And if wanting and valuing respect from others is your goal, then I think it could be quite helpful. It does ignore one basic point however. You have to WANT to be respected and desire respect from others. There are many people who socially function very well without this need. I’ve always believed respecting myself to be more important.
Just give the 7 behaviours!
Think you left out a very important one for us seniors. Just being old often makes a person irrelevant. Not just speaking for myself but have watched others even very interesting people being dismissed while others go on talking about themselves.
Why don’t you make customer services of some companies that use AI robots instead of humans read this? They need to!
Excellent and true comments.
Bah! NONESENSE! What a loada—-!
Folks with integrity can just BE themselves and don’t need to give nor take any ass-kissing. If you have integrity, you don’t NEED a fan club.
I get along by myself just fine—I WON’T BE INDUCTED INTO PECKING ORDERS UNLESS IT IS ASSERTED THAT I AM AT THE TOP!! Yeah. it saves me a lot of time and trouble to just avoid—-
* PREDATORS
* PARASITES
* OPPORTUNISTS
* MANIPULATORS
* DRUG CRAZED
* CRIMINALLY INSANE
* SEX MANIACS
* SATANS LEGIONS OF FLUNKIES
* AND HOSTS OF OTHER UNSAVORY TYPES
Sighhhhh—When you have inner peace—WHAT ELSE IS THERE??
This timely advice given freely by your favorite Sage—Feral Tomm
Now THAT was well said and thank you for putting it out there!
I agree. Too many people have no integrity these days, The narcissists alone are hard to read. Two different people. They show the world their mask of who they want you to believe they are, while hiding their true selves underneath.. You got to be a well educated person to navigate this new world of ME ME ME entitled society. Another reason its best to not participate. People today are evil and I am not catering to their mental illnesses.
I agree. People today have no integrity and society has a whole lot of mental issues. Old school was best. No one has taught their kids what they need to succeed in life. Generations of entitled brats and people broken from childhood grow up to be narcissists who prey on others disguised by their mask of deceit.
#1 Honesty, was spot on but the rest of this article soon fell apart. You have to build trust with others before the reward of their respect is earned. This takes time.
Trust is earned by developing and demonstrating certain traits. These include; honor, honesty, integrity, and treating others with respect. Having the courage to do the right thing, a commitment to taking care of the people around you, and making things better for everyone.
These are the things that leaders do.
Now THAT was well said and thank you for putting it out there!
To Feral Tom: You may have intgrity, but you come across as hostile, obnoxious.