#6 They Don’t Consider What You Are Saying
Many times, when someone wants to manipulate you, they will assume that you have already agreed with what they have said.
A manipulative individual may casually and quietly assume that you agree with what they say in an attempt to get their way. It’s natural for us to project our biases onto other people and situations. However, someone who wants to control you will attempt to perplex you and claim that anything you say or do supports their point of view. If you express your disagreement with someone, a person who is not attempting to mislead you will be open to hearing you out.
When manipulators use your memories, they frequently succeed in getting what they want. For instance, someone may remark, “You don’t recall this conversation? You have always had a poor memory.” A manipulator can get their way without the need for a discussion or a compromise by claiming that a decision or agreement was already made.
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Good info
You forgot a crucial one: they compliment you excessively. Always a sure sign of manipulative bs.
So true, lately the complements are so often it’s sickening, I quite acknowledging them. My mistake today was taking him shopping with me and him telling me I didn’t need something. After 21 years I told him we’re pretty much through so on comes the 10 yr old brain he reverts to and now he is pouting. Wasn’t kidding, I am done
My Husband has been Manipulating me for 20+ years.
Hes not physical but he is Emotionally and Physiologically,
been abusing me, and it’s very hard to get out of, I have
anxiety from the abuse
I left . Changed the locks. I just faced the consequences. Whether legal. Danger. Financial. It all worked out. It wasn’t easy but it’s the best thing you could do. Go for it.
The biggest manipulator I’ve seen in Officer Micah Vehrs of the Logan Police Department in Utah. He also a malicious liar that gratifies himself by destroying the lives of innocent people. While interrogating his victims has asks the most fantastical and disgusting question to make his victim sound like a dangerous monster. For every question he “asks” he chooses one answer and will not agree to any other. He will keep pounding and pounding the same answer into his victims head until they either agree or stop talking. When they stop he’ll finally write that answer down that he pre-selected. Micah Vehrs is pure evil.
Yes so many law officers are corrupt, just like the one you have mentioned some even abusing children. thank you for the real raw truth it takes guts and love for others to post facts about the laws in a negative light. People just assume the badge mean good help huh they victimize also. We have a sheriff on this block that has entered this house uninvited numerous times he had a key. the lawmen stated he is going to take this house for his son.
There’s some officers who do the same thing in Idaho and Washington State. I’ve heard that instead of firing them, they just transfer them to another place.
Excellent and important information
So true. Could the person you describe be Socio paths. My husband seems to fit so many of the characteristics of a sociopath. He will get notions to do something, if it hurts another person, or breaks any kind of law or causes an inconvenience or makes another person wait because he puts if off, he is fine with all of that. It is always what he wants. Money matters are the worst. Lying is a way of life for him. It matters not, to him, if he lies. It’s a struggle, but I always forgive, not forget, but accept him back into your acceptance.
Logan Utah police department sounds like a throwback to pre-millennial practice, when interrogations were not recorded. Once it became better understood that there are some police officers who do not respect the rights of accused, making recordings became standard. Surely the “evil” policeman mentioned could be caught and he would be looking for other ways to abuse people where he is not so protected by the thin blue line.
Police work is really very difficult, and quite dangerous so that we need to be as supportive of the majority of police who try with substantial energy to do the right things, as we wish to be critical (and punishing) of those who step over the lines of laws and decency. Some aspects of good police work have a need to manipulate the public, both in rooting out the really substantial evil of some, and to encourage the good which can be found in most creatures (even humans).
If you want something, whether you believe you deserve it or not, you will consciously or psychologically structure your actions and behaviors to achieve it…that’s human nature…but its our learned Civil, moral, ethical and ethos behavior we must follow… to be fair, kind and considerate of others that we must obey… because being honest and truthful, good or bad… are choices that we make, which will be dictated by the strength of our character.
I feel that I am being manipulated by my friend guy. I really want to know. I really want to be with him but something is not right. Been seeing him off and on for about 26 years. Need the truth once and for all.
Sweetie: your answer is pretty clear after 26 years. He’s not into you. Pick up your feelings and move on!
The members of minority groups are also more susceptible to manipulation is just more leftist BS. the constant victimhood thing and then the writer adds the privilege crap the leftist use. The “minorities” are the privileged people. perhaps the writer is racist and see minorities as weak and helpless.
I feel like it might have been useful to also explain that sometimes the person (the manipulator) may not even realize they are being emotionally abusive. Many people do not even know they are manipulating. Sure, there are plenty of bullies out there that know exactly what they are doing and they are evil but there are some who do not know they are doing it. I have seen that manytimes when there is emotional abuse in a relationship it is often two sided and both people are at fault and the relationship has turned toxic. I also wanted to point out that manipulation is not always just a bad thing. We manipulate and are manipulated daily, it is not alway an act of harmful intent.
I’ve realized I’ve been manipulated, taken advantage of, threatened and coerced my entire life. I’m 47 years seasoned and suffered a stroke at 36. I’ve worked for family for all of my working years and still to this day, wouldn’t change a thing. My family raised me to respect hard work and I’ve devoted all of my loyalty to my family. I’ve worked with my dad in the family ready mixed concrete company. Office work, dispatched trucks. I felt great pride in doing my duty to our family’s livihood. Opened a cafe with mom and sis, we all had a third. This is when things changed. After two years of the cafe being opened, I wasn’t recieving a wage. The gracious customers gratuities was my only income. I paid my taxes on my gratuities. My own mother went to Europe, twice and made me believe the cafe wasn’t doing as good as it appeared, and how dare I be such an ingrate. Owners of businesses dont get paid. Shut up and think how lucky I was. Ok, sorry. I won’t rock the boat. It makes me so mad at her for what really was happening. Not only did I lose an owners share of revenue, for 20 years, she failed to report my work credits to the social security administration, after 40 years of employment I am a ghost to the ssa. When I turn 65, I will die to survive on $236.00 a month. That’s just for being an American citizen. I could start a very invasive audit on my mom and her employment tax fraud but I know it wouldn’t explain or lessen the utter betrayal and hypocritical behavior of my mom.
Great article and I would just like to add. Misery loves company. Let grown people make their own decisions. Giving advice is good; but, just because theirs differ from yours doesn’t make your choice right.
WOW! The acme of pettiness! We are ALL manipulated/psyched out 24/7 (yes, even in our dreams by the “beast” of Bible fame).
We are psychologically manipulated on a constant basis by business, politics, religion, education, and military interests, quite often via electronic media.
Step inside a chain grocery store and the packaging, layout, and choice of products, lighting, et al. is psychologically formulated to cause you (UNWITTINGLY??) to buy more and spend more! THEY ARE INSIDE YOUR HEAD INFLUENCING YOUR “FREE” WILL!
How about the big pharma ads when you watch the news on the (appropriately named) idiot box? All the actors singing and dancing over the “marvels” of their nasty drugs! How SICK is that? Then the NEWS—soaping and rinsing your mind, forming your opinions for you!!
Don’t forget “education” and I won’t elaborate here about the decades of “dumbing down” that they are so proficient at!
SOOO—-modern people are so manipulated by so many prevalent sources that they are little more than well programed money squandering zombies—fed a constant barrage of carefully formulated psychological propaganda!!
You KNOW that, but ddo you address this dastardly dilemma? No—you only focus on an ultra downgraded form of 1 on 1 personal petty manupilation! SHAME ON YOU! You are right in line with the beasts drive to dominate all the minds it possibly can!
SO VERRRY SAD, ain’t it?
This is yet another attempt to wake up your sleeping bedazzled minds, zombiacs—another gift from your favorite sage, feral Tomm