2. Why do people fall in love with narcissists? They want to be entertained
Yes, this is one reason why people prefer to stay with narcissistic lovers. Maybe it sounds unreal when you hear about it for the first time, but we are totally serious about this matter.
Because they are so grandiose, narcissists love to show off and impress others. This means that they have a high chance of being amazing entertainers. This character might make people who are seeking stimuli in a romantic relationship choose a narcissist.
But why do people fall in love with narcissists who enjoy entertaining them? In general, those who want to be constantly entertained by their partner are trying to escape from something. Maybe they are trying to distract themselves from negative emotions and dissatisfaction, or they just want to find a way to deal with the feelings of boredom.
Narcissists are also able to give these people, who are constantly looking for something to distract themselves, access to these stimuli. Sometimes they are positive, and other times the stimuli are negative.
Sharing exciting and passionate moments with a partner may help create good memories, but relying on them too much, to the point that it feels like escapism, may be signaling some unresolved issues, unhealthy patterns and behaviors, and a lack of connection and emotional intimacy.
I found this article to be quite insiteful as i have read the previous ones reguarding the signs to be aware of that you have been or that you currently are in a relationship with a narcissist. The biggest hurdles for me to get over was that constant need to seek closure when the need to understand why or how ome to love unconditionally a woman that ,after reading articles on the subject, have concluded more and more a strong possibility she in fact is a narcissist. After Eight years of being in a relationship/ marriage with this person ,this was the one topic that I still had not yet come to any logical conclusions to, and in fact to this day even had just given up on on the serch to find such answears as to how I could love somebody so cruel and cold and selfish as she was/is still to this day. So in fact this article has given me, inpart some possible closure I had been seeking even years after the marrage to this person had ended.
Hi David,
You got out of the marriage to a narcissit. I did the same. However, it took me 38 years of putting myself in that position. I had all the charactoristics of wanting to save and protect them. I finally realized that I had give up my power and the hope that I would have closure. Today, I am free from the bondage, the drama and the relationship. I learned to self love, protect my heart and walk away.
I have done so much work on who I am and how to be me that I do not think of this person. I pray for him and I realize that I had to find the closure to save my soul. I have and will continue to take care of me. I rely on my spiritual guide and when I have a weak moment I realize all the blessings in my life because I can breath and be grateful that I am no longer with that person. I hope this helps. LRM