Don’t throw away keepsakes.
The sad reality is that you cannot keep everything from a deceased loved one, as much as one would like to. However, you should never just give away the possessions without filtering through them so that you can keep some of the most important things as keepsakes.
Keeping some items can prove to be a powerful way to connect with a deceased loved one, as this can keep the connection between you alive. Not to mention, some items can have a lot of emotional value; they can be gifts you received from them, gifts you have given them that they loved, or just items that you know they have loved or that remind you of them.
Of course, if they have some old pictures or keepsakes that they have kept, you should probably keep those as well.
You may have seen the idea that keeping items from your loved ones can increase the sadness that you feel. If you have tried to get healthy, then this does not apply to you. You cannot avoid the mentions or memories of the person who has passed away, and interacting with them in a positive way is the key to coming to terms with the event and also connecting with a deceased loved one.
While it has not caused any extra pain for many, for others, it may not be something they can bear. But to make sure that you are not doing something you will regret, it is also useful to store their belongings somewhere safe until you feel you can go through them without being overcome by sadness.
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Yes I have connected to deceased.
Your article was so spot on. I found everything you mentioned to be so comforting in dealing with my husband’s death. We met when I was only fourteen and married after college. The grief was so overwhelming I just wanted to die myself. But what helped me the most was I kept his urn at home. It made all the difference in helping me move forward. I asked him on his death bed if I could cremate him and take him with me wherever I go. He could not see or talk but he squeezed my hand in approval. I was inconsolable for so long and today I feel so thankful that we had all those years together. Grief is a journey to gratitude. I feel totally connected to my husband still and thoughts of him make me smile now! You never really lose a loved one, they are still with you always!!
Yes I have and I have been Validated by my Spiritual Advisor. I’ve heard from my Daughter on numerous occasions. My Spiritualist saved my life along with Spirit, Father God and Mother God Azna. It will be 13 aching years this April that my Sami crossed over . She connects with me with Yellow Butterflies and Yellow Flowers. 💛
I want to know more about connecting with a love one. mama died in 1994, I ALMOST DID NOT MAKE IT. if it had not been far my 15 year old son , i would have just died. i wanted to . she has been dead 30 years, i cannot get over it. my son is 45now, has 3 of the most beatiful , sweet children i have ever seen., I HAVE A GOOD HUSBAND, but i still cry in private, because i want my mama. sometimes i fill like, she is in the house with me, when i am alone.my husband thinks that is just crazy. pleaseshare something with me that i can talk to mama again.
I lost my mom dec 2017 and have dreamed nearly every night since about her. I want my mom so badly I feel like I can’t go on sometimes. I am seriously disabled so lived with her a good part of my life. She was with me when both my kids were born, she helped raise them. I told her everything. I couldn’t bear the thought of losing her and completely lost it when I did. Not a single day goes by I don’t think about wanting her here. I wish I knew of a way to handle this too.