In the Heat of the Moment: How to Outsmart a Phone Scammer
Even with the best preparation, a scam call can still get through. Knowing exactly what to do and say in that moment is key. The goal is not to engage, argue, or unmask the scammer. The goal is to end the interaction as quickly and safely as possible. Here are practical scripts and tactics to use.
The Power of Screening and Silence
Your first line of defense is your caller ID and voicemail. If you don’t recognize the number, it is almost always best to let the call go to voicemail. Legitimate callers will leave a message explaining who they are and why they are calling. Scammers and robocallers will typically hang up and move on to their next target.
If you do answer an unknown call, you can use silence to your advantage. Many automated robocall systems are voice-activated. After you say “Hello,” simply wait in silence. If there’s no immediate response from a human, it may be a robocall that will disconnect on its own. Responding with phrases like “Yes” or “I can hear you” can sometimes flag your number as active, leading to more calls.
Your Go-To Scripts to End the Call
Having a pre-planned script removes the need to think on your feet when you’re feeling flustered. Rehearse these lines so they feel natural. The key is to be firm and to follow through by hanging up immediately after you speak. Do not wait for their response or get drawn into an argument.
The Polite and Final Exit: “Thank you for the information. I will verify this through official channels. Goodbye.” Then hang up.
The Direct, No-Nonsense Exit: “I do not discuss personal or financial matters on an unsolicited call. I am hanging up now.” Then hang up.
The Simple “No” Practice: Scammers will ask leading questions to get you to engage. Practice the powerful act of saying “No” without justifying yourself.
Scammer: “Can you just confirm your date of birth for security purposes?”
You: “No.”
Scammer: “But I need this to access your account and stop the fraudulent charge.”
You: “I will not provide any information. Goodbye.” Then hang up.
Recognizing Red Flags in Real Time
As you listen, be alert for these undeniable signs of a scam in progress. Recognizing even one of them is your cue to implement your exit script immediately.
Unusual Payment Methods: This is the biggest red flag of all. Legitimate government agencies and companies will never demand payment via gift cards (like Google Play, Apple, or Steam cards), wire transfers (like Western Union or MoneyGram), or cryptocurrency (like Bitcoin). These methods are untraceable and irreversible, which is why criminals prefer them. If you hear any of these words, you are 100% in a scam.
Demands for Secrecy: Scammers will often try to isolate you from your support network. They will say things like, “This is a confidential legal matter, you cannot speak to anyone about this,” or in the case of a grandparent scam, “Please don’t tell Mom and Dad, they’ll be angry.” This is a deliberate tactic to prevent you from using your Verification Circle. Any request for secrecy is a sign of manipulation.
Caller ID Spoofing: Be aware that criminals can fake the information that appears on your caller ID. This is called “spoofing.” The call may look like it’s coming from a local number, the IRS, or even your own bank, but it is not. Because caller ID is no longer reliable, you must never trust it as proof of identity. Always use independent verification.
