#5 You Are Aware That They Gossip About Others
One telltale sign that someone is talking badly or pretty rude about you behind your back is if they are also doing it to other people. Do you have a friend who is always up to date on everything that happens in everyone’s lives and shares with you all the spicy details? We have bad news for you. They might do exactly the same with the secrets that you tell them. People usually follow a pattern and they rarely stray away from it.
It’s highly likely that they will also speak poorly about you if you know they can’t keep a secret. If someone has a history of being mean, catty, or even a little bit dishonest, you might want to consider cutting connections with them.
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My ex therapist placed a peace order agaist me and I am de pressed and upset about this
What can I do to solve the problem.
Brene’ Brown on TED does talk on trust. She breaks it down as an acronym (T. R. U. S. T.). It is a awesome talk and, and one of the things she brings up is that if you have a relationship with someone who tells you about other people’s secrets. Don’t trust them.
Check it out on TED the short talk is okay but, the longer talk is better.
WGC
As the saying goes, “If they are talking about me, they are leaving someone else alone.” I really don’t want to know. What someone thinks of me is none of my business just as it is none of their business what I think of them.
Usually I will pay no attention. A friend told me this one time. “ Those who care don’t need an explanation and the ones that don’t care aren’t going to believe you anyway”
Absolute
I agree.
Who cares people will always have something say about someone else. Tell me something I don’t already know. When you love yourself none of that matters on who’s talking about you.
I think it is very beneficial to know what someone thinks about you. To be forewarned is to be forearmed.
The sad part of this is this type of person can ruin your standing or your career whether what they are saying is true or not. Jealousy and hate is a terrible thing for someone to continually possess as they can do harm to others simply to make themselves feel better about themselves. You can confront or if it’s a work situation go through the appropriate person or persons to help you in this situation, but honestly from my experience I it’s sometimes best just to keep quiet go about your business do your job hopefully it will pass. You don’t want in my opinion to stoop to their level.
Great information? Good to know these things. In my experience about 1/2cthe time a group or one-on-one conversation is about other people & personalities. Now I’m better prepared to make it even more interesting whil it lasts. Very often I like to talk about important political, religious & philosophical things. Most if the time these conversations end quickly with some dismissive or Very strange comment. I don’t usually try to draw that person out but I do think I’ll be doing as much question asking as I can from now on. People normally talk about themselves so what’s the problem? You don’t need to care too much what others may say behind your back but you can use it to draw out or include in a conversation. These days people seem unable to have a conversation or discussion of any substance. Dig in. Ask questions. Don’t be afraid. Unless there is a criminal or potential legal issue involved. And even then there are ways.
Strong 💪🏽 people can say that but everyone is not immune to this form of bullying. Let’s face it, words hurt.
The old saying “sticks and stones may break my bones but your words will never hurt me” is how we should feel.
This sounds like Biden. He puts everyone down. Or just says a smart and stupid remark if someone challenges his policies. Or walks away. Tries to make others feel bad for his stupid remarks and policies. Never takes blame for the bad policies and behavior. If someone seems to not like another person. Was there a reason? I was told some years back. If you try and help at least one person a day, friends will see. The people that are not friends, will bad mouth you. Usually because they only care about themselves. The me, me, me, syndrome. The only people that matter, in my opinion, are your true friends and God. We all make mistakes. The people that are not helping people, or using people, are the cowards. They really are the ones that need God. Remember, all of us have shortcomings. But, some people are just plain evil.
Biden? Bad politics?