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8 Things Narcissists Say to Keep You Under Control

February 8, 2026 · Relationships
A person walking through a distorted, swirling hallway of warped architecture.
A man navigates a stone hallway as the walls and shadows twist into surreal, disorienting swirls of distorted reality.

7. “You’re Crazy / You Need Help”

The Tactic: Pathologizing

When you finally confront them with facts or catch them in a lie, they may pull the ripcord: “You’re crazy.” This is the ultimate dismissal. It is often used in conjunction with DARVO, an acronym coined by psychologist Jennifer Freyd:

  • Deny the behavior
  • Attack the victim
  • Reverse Victim and Offender

By claiming you are the unstable one, they reverse the roles, forcing you to defend your sanity rather than holding them accountable for their actions.

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