A Note for Caregivers: How to Support a Loved One with Anxiety

Watching a parent, spouse, or friend struggle with anxiety can be heartbreaking and frustrating. Your support can make a world of difference, but it’s important to approach it in a way that is truly helpful for both your loved one and yourself.

Do: Listen and Validate

The most powerful thing you can do is listen without judgment. Anxiety can feel irrational, but the fear it creates is very real to the person experiencing it. Instead of arguing with the fear, validate the feeling behind it.

Supportive script: Instead of saying, “There’s nothing to worry about,” try, “It sounds like that’s really frightening for you. I’m here to listen if you want to talk about it.”

Don’t: Dismiss or “Fix”

Telling someone to “just relax” or “calm down” is rarely helpful and can make them feel misunderstood. Avoid offering unsolicited advice or trying to immediately solve the problem. Your calm, steady presence is often more valuable than any quick fix.

Do: Encourage and Assist (Gently)

Gently encourage them to use the coping skills they’re learning or to engage in pleasant activities. You can be a partner in their wellness journey.

Supportive action: “I know you’ve been hesitant to go out. Would you like to take a short walk around the block with me this afternoon?” or “I can help you make a list of questions for your doctor’s appointment if you’d like.”

Don’t: Forget Your Own Well-being

Caregiving is demanding, and it’s easy to experience burnout. Your mental health matters, too. Set healthy boundaries to protect your own energy. You cannot pour from an empty cup. Seek out your own support, whether through friends, a therapist, or a caregiver support group. Organizations like SAMHSA provide resources that can be helpful for both individuals and their families.