Have you been raised by a narcissistic mother?
While growing up, when you are a child, your parents are a big presence in your life, and this is completely normal. You rely on them for survival. For your emotional and physical safety, you need your parents to take care of you.
But as you grow up, you become more and more independent, and slowly but surely, you can live on your own. This is an essential part of a healthy parent-child relationship and is a shift that comes naturally.
Every kid becomes a full person with needs, desires, and perspectives that are completely worthy of the support of their parents. However, if you have a narcissistic mother, there is a high chance that your growing-up experience is totally different.
Hopefully, there are some clear signs that can tell you if you’ve been raised by a narcissistic mother, and we are about to share them with you. Read on and find out more.
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I actually didn’t know that being a narcissist was a thing until the last 10 months when things just would not add up and I didn’t understand it although I’m 58 years old, it still is bewildering to me
Sadly these are all traits I experience from my daughter. I genuinely read this to see if I was guilty of being a narcissistic mother but these are the things I experience with my two oldest. They still feel I should be paying for them or somehow bail them out of situations from Poe choices, and I find myself always apologizing for things I know I didn’t even do just to appease and keep one of of these two’s outbursts of anger and insult at a minimum, just to keep the piece. It’s exhausting to say the least, disruptive and draining. I have finally learned to set boundaries. It took me a long time to realize that no matter what I did for these girls that I would always be their scapegoat for anything that goes wrong in their lives.
So tired of article beating up on parents. Parenting is not easy especially when the child has adhd, drug problems. Some more articles on HOW IMPORTANT FAMILY is HOW LUCKY YOU ARE IF YOUR PARENTS ARE ALIVE. How relationships take two and sometimes your behavior causes reactions. How are articles praising the parents that stick with the child thru drug addiction. HOw about articles if you are successful your parents did something right.
Drugs do not create narcissistic disorder. However too often it’s the parents who unknowingly create narcissism in children. You as a parent, might not have these characteristics. But you can certainly help to turn a child into one by under indulgence or over indulgence. How do I know? I stare at these faces every single day in my life and feel powerless to do anything.
I was a child when I witnessed extreme cruelty, physical abuse and absence of love and guidance being given to one specific child throughout his childhood until the day he left my family at the age of 17. He went to jail for shooting at someone and missed his head by an inch. Got out of jail and turned his life around by working and putting himself through school without anyone’s help. He became a hi-tech engineer then subsequently a manger.
He had a very successful career and retired at the age of 55. Awesome you’d think? Not so fast! He IS the most selfish, cold, calculated, entitled, jealous, easy to triggered, controlling SOB I know. He is my brother and I love and care about him. But I pay real close attention to him when we’re close. I cannot trust him. It’s so so sad. A life is wasted when you never learned how to be honest or love another soul beside yourself.
On the other hand, my parents made sure all of us females are subservient, low self esteem and become great targets for these narcissistic individuals.
So, you don’t have to be a narcissist to raise another one but you can sure as hell help to create a few of them.
My mother was very kind to other people & sometimes to me but she would say “Your Daddy does not think you are pretty because you do not look like ME. Then later “I love your brother more than I do you but your Daddy loves you best”. What on Earth? And she had felt belittled by her own mother so WHY WOULD SHE DO THAT?
I’m just curious and want to learn more!
Every word describes my mother exactly. It blows my mind how someone cannot see the way they’re treating people. So many different things going on and no accountability they see nothing wrong with them. It’s just frustrating when you can’t get through to somebody like this and they don’t want to get help. She started acting like this years ago, she didn’t do it when I was little. But each day it gets worse and worse and more consistent.