Why do people fall in love with narcissists? This is something that happens more than you think. But why? According to research in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, certain narcissists are desirable potential partners for casual and short-term relationships due to their magnetic personality, physical allure, social boldness, and bravado.
But behind all of this, you should remember that narcissists lack empathy, have distorted senses of self, and tend to have manipulative and controlling behaviors. They might trick you into believing that they care for you, but in the end, this is not the reality.
So the question of why people fall in love with narcissists remains a mystery. Why would you want a selfish and manipulative person to be your partner?
The answer is not that easy, and this is why we are here today. To figure it out once and for all. There are some scientific explanations that can tell us why people are attracted to and tend to fall for narcissists.
I found this article to be quite insiteful as i have read the previous ones reguarding the signs to be aware of that you have been or that you currently are in a relationship with a narcissist. The biggest hurdles for me to get over was that constant need to seek closure when the need to understand why or how ome to love unconditionally a woman that ,after reading articles on the subject, have concluded more and more a strong possibility she in fact is a narcissist. After Eight years of being in a relationship/ marriage with this person ,this was the one topic that I still had not yet come to any logical conclusions to, and in fact to this day even had just given up on on the serch to find such answears as to how I could love somebody so cruel and cold and selfish as she was/is still to this day. So in fact this article has given me, inpart some possible closure I had been seeking even years after the marrage to this person had ended.
Hi David,
You got out of the marriage to a narcissit. I did the same. However, it took me 38 years of putting myself in that position. I had all the charactoristics of wanting to save and protect them. I finally realized that I had give up my power and the hope that I would have closure. Today, I am free from the bondage, the drama and the relationship. I learned to self love, protect my heart and walk away.
I have done so much work on who I am and how to be me that I do not think of this person. I pray for him and I realize that I had to find the closure to save my soul. I have and will continue to take care of me. I rely on my spiritual guide and when I have a weak moment I realize all the blessings in my life because I can breath and be grateful that I am no longer with that person. I hope this helps. LRM